Sophie said:

its really bazzare but just recently whe anyone talks to me about clubbing or am i going somewhere i get totally bored of it! i dont find any events now to be as good as they used to be when i was younger!

 

when i first started going out it would be me tara and a few others and i found that really fun and exciteing! now i go out once every two months if that because firstly i am always skint and secondly i have more important things to be doing!

 

also i feel like ive "done eveything" in a clubbing sence! ive been ibiza, ive been to most of the festivals ie. gatecrasher etc... most of the member meets and i feel like i dont need to do it any more cos ive done it all before!

 

am i the only person that feels like this?!

 

been like that for a while its [censored]!

Blink said:

If you have grown out of clubbing, you were never into clubbing

Precisely.

 

Sophie, maybe you could choose better words than "grown out of" clubbing. Maybe you're going to the wrong clubs if you think clubbing is childish.

 

I have met loads of people who are only in their early-to-mid- twenties who reckon they have grown out of clubbing; what they really mean is they have got bored of taking drugs week-in-week-out. But to me, saying you've grown out of clubbing is like saying you've "grown out of socialising" or "you've grown out of music", which is bollocks.

 

I've never got bored of clubbing, as I have always done it in moderation, and not least because I have an insatiable appetite for new music (house and non-house!)

 

The only things that put me off clubbing are when I go to clubs that are full of:

 

1. cliquey / snobbish / antisocial people, or posers

2. people who are obsessed with drugs and getting off their faces

For some people clubbing is a phase, e.g. getting pissed up when you're 18, going clubbing when you're 25, going on package holidays to Florida when you're 35 etc (just a random example). For those people, I think it will be a combination of things that determine what those phases are: age, what their mates are in to, current fashion, how much money they have at the time etc.

 

For others its a lifestyle choice. This would be driven by other factors: perhaps long term love of music, feeling part of the culture (I'm not referring to drugs - I'm referring to culture of making friends, sharing, having fun together, looking after each other; of course, clubs are not the only place you can or should do this; but in real good clubs, with real nice crowds, that's the vibe that appeals to me).

 

If it's a lifestyle choice I think it's likely to last a LOT longer, which is why you can sometime see clubbers in their 40s - 50s and they're every bit as hip as we're trying to be. Especially in Ibiza ....

If somebody still likes dance music, enjoys going out with your mates, and there are clubs that they like going to, then I'm not sure what it means to "grow out" of it? And it doesn't have to be in conflict with, say, settling down.

Agreed with everything you said there Aleksandra. Especially this bit:

 

Aleksandra said:

If somebody still likes dance music, enjoys going out with your mates, and there are clubs that they like going to, then I'm not sure what it means to "grow out" of it? And it doesn't have to be in conflict with, say, settling down.

I will only "grow out" of clubbing if the music becomes stale (hard to believe this will happen) or if there are no likeminded people going to clubs (i.e. people who are in it for the music and the socialising).

 

Fortunately music seems to constantly evolve. As soon as one genre becomes dull, another underground genre emerges, or two existing styles merge into something new! As long as there are people who like dance music, there will be artists trying to come up with interesting new tracks.

liquideyes said:

Blink said:

If you have grown out of clubbing, you were never into clubbing

Precisely.

 

Sophie, maybe you could choose better words than "grown out of" clubbing. Maybe you're going to the wrong clubs if you think clubbing is childish.

 

I have met loads of people who are only in their early-to-mid- twenties who reckon they have grown out of clubbing; what they really mean is they have got bored of taking drugs week-in-week-out. But to me, saying you've grown out of clubbing is like saying you've "grown out of socialising" or "you've grown out of music", which is bollocks.

 

I've never got bored of clubbing, as I have always done it in moderation, and not least because I have an insatiable appetite for new music (house and non-house!)

 

The only things that put me off clubbing are when I go to clubs that are full of:

 

1. cliquey / snobbish / antisocial people, or posers

2. people who are obsessed with drugs and getting off their faces

 

youve tottally twisted my words!

 

firstly i never said i thought clubbing was childish!

 

secondly i am not bored of going clubbing because i am bored of taking drugs... i will have you no i have tried getting off my face on a few occasions and to be honest its not my taste of fun, and was probably the worst experiance of my life, hence the fact i dont take anything whilst im out!

 

i totally do not agree with the phase if you wernt into clubbing you never were!

 

i totally love the music! and not so long ago i was really into it! going out in cyber etc.. the fact is i got bored of doing cyber and now im bored of going out full stop even if i do have a few months break!

soph - its also worth pointing out that the trance/hardhouse/funky clubbing you have been into has only been for a period of 1 year 5 months. I predict you will get back into it perhaps in a couple of years, if I were you though I would concentrate on your Uni in the interim

Sophie said:

firstly i never said i thought clubbing was childish!

You said you've "grown out of it" - isn't that the same thing? After all you're only 20 years old!! And by the way, everyone thinks that they are really grown up for their age. Fair enough if you think you've been through a lot, but it's all relative.

 

secondly i am not bored of going clubbing because i am bored of taking drugs

I never said you were! Now you're twisting my words!

 

i totally do not agree with the phase if you wernt into clubbing you never were!

I think the distinction is between something you do recreationally and something you do as a lifestyle. E.g. I used to drink cider with my mates, but that wasn't a lifestyle choice, it was just something I did (and enjoyed!) But clubbing/music is different, it's major part of my life and it's hard to envisage it not being so.

I like clubbing - but its not my life and I'll never treat it as my life. Some people do, its not sad I just feel sometimes people take this 'clubbing' thing too seriously at times, going week in week out WILL burn you out so break for a while, do something else, dont think clubbins the be all and end all, its not.

agreed - it burnt me out and i love it as much as the next. lately i've REALLY started to enjoy it again as its every other week or less from now on If I was 20 again though i'd be out twice a week - its fooking ace

CreamyC said:

I just feel sometimes people take this 'clubbing' thing too seriously at times, going week in week out WILL burn you out so break for a while

Agreed. When I say it's a major part of my life, I'm talking more about the music than the clubbing. Discovering new records, writing my own tunes, meeting other artists and music enthusiasts... I only really go clubbing once a month but I still regard it as a big thing. I've never been an "every-weeker", maybe this is why I still enjoy it after many years.

liquideyes said:

Sophie, maybe you could choose better words than "grown out of" clubbing. Maybe you're going to the wrong clubs if you think clubbing is childish.

growing doesn't necessarily connotate "maturing".

things can grow "apart" as well as "up"

alasdair

alasdairm said:

liquideyes said:

Sophie, maybe you could choose better words than "grown out of" clubbing. Maybe you're going to the wrong clubs if you think clubbing is childish.

 

growing doesn't necessarily connotate "maturing".

 

things can grow "apart" as well as "up"

 

alasdair

 

so "growing out of" could either mean gettin too big for or even, literally growing out of (like a plant)

Sophie said:

the thing is though for someone whos only 20 ive been through alot in my youth!

 

i think ive been through alot more then other people my age and learnt about certain things quicker like how to deal with money etc....

Then why do you come across so immature?

rickd said:

Sophie said:

the thing is though for someone whos only 20 ive been through alot in my youth!

 

i think ive been through alot more then other people my age and learnt about certain things quicker like how to deal with money etc....

Then why do you come across so immature?

 

rick im affraid you just dont no me! you have never made an effort to talk to me when im out, and all you ever do on here is slag me off!

 

im sorry but i dont have the time of day for people with attitudes like yours!

In much simpler terms - in other words - cutting the crap clubbing becomes boring week in and week out, do something different now and again. Stay fresh.