I was chatting on the phone with my (single male) mate this afternoon, and he was telling me that he had asked my boyfriend last night if he fancied a night out with the lads to a Strip Club.

Alex was "well up for it" apparently.

I feel like shit now.

How would anyone else feel if their long-term partner decided to do this?

Hmm... I haven't decided on an answer to your question yet. However, out of curiosity:

 

1. Do you trust him not to actually cheat on you?

2. Do you mind him, for example, looking at porn?

liquideyes said:

Hmm... I haven't decided on an answer to your question yet. However, out of curiosity:

 

1. Do you trust him not to actually cheat on you?

2. Do you mind him, for example, looking at porn?

 

1) i'm not entirely sure. having trusted and been let down in the past, i dont think i completely trust ANYONE, but it's more yes than no...

 

2) i don't mind him looking at porn as long as i'm involved (with him and enjoying it too). i'm very insecure with stuff like that - i feel that him looking at other women in that way suggests that i fall short somewhere.

It wouldn't bother me too much, cos I trust my bloke, and I've heard most of those girls have Herpes anyway, and have really big fannies.

I'm always game for some strip shows, dont see whats wrong with that as long as you dont do anything extra, dont really see the problem. To be honest I only go if there are loads fo mates to go with for a laugh - but some I have been to are full of dirty past it old pervy gret haired business men.

CreamyC said:

I'm always game for some strip shows, dont see whats wrong with that as long as you dont do anything extra, dont really see the problem. To be honest I only go if there are loads of mates to go with for a laugh - but some I have been to are full of dirty, past-it old pervy grey-haired business men.

 

Do you have a girlfriend? And if you do, how does she feel about it? Does it make her feel insecure?

 

Do you go because it's something that u don't get a home? (to look at, i mean)

Cherry said:

i'm very insecure with stuff like that - i feel that him looking at other women in that way suggests that i fall short somewhere.

The sooner you get that idea out of your head, the better!

 

There are only two kinds of men: those who admit they like looking at other women, and liars. Often this is one of the hardest things for women to grasp. Men are genetically programmed to look at other women. It doesn't mean we are comparing them to you!

 

IMHO a bit of fantasy is alright, as long as that's all it is. I have mates who've been to more "respectable" strip clubs, and I think as Creamy says, it's not so bad as long it's a "with your mates" thing.

 

Just my opinion though. It's up to you whether you want to let your b/f go! But don't try to "control" him just because of your insecurities.

liquideyes said:

Cherry said:

i'm very insecure with stuff like that - i feel that him looking at other women in that way suggests that i fall short somewhere.

The sooner you get that idea out of your head, the better!

 

There are only two kinds of men: those who admit they like looking at other women, and liars. Often this is one of the hardest things for women to grasp. Men are genetically programmed to look at other women. It doesn't mean we are comparing them to you!

 

IMHO a bit of fantasy is alright, as long as that's all it is. I have mates who've been to more "respectable" strip clubs, and I think as Creamy says, it's not so bad as long it's a "with your mates" thing.

 

Just my opinion though. It's up to you whether you want to let your b/f go! But don't try to "control" him just because of your insecurities.

 

Thanks, Liquideyes, you always make such a lot of sense.

Can't say that theres anything wrong with people going to strip clubs. Is he being open with you about it?

 

Can't say its my thing, paying for some lass to feign interest in me for a couple of minutes, but for some its a evenings entertainment.

Cherry said:

Do you have a girlfriend?

 

Yes, shes the girl that posted before me.

 

And if you do, how does she feel about it?

 

Shes answered.

 

 

Does it make her feel insecure?

 

Nope, shes okay about. I am a trustworthy person, shes a lucky girl.

 

Do you go because it's something that u don't get a home? (to look at, i mean)

 

No, because for me, its just a laugh, nothing more.

 

You would love to have a boyfriend like me wouldn't you.

CreamyC said:

Nope, shes okay about. I am a trustworthy person, shes a lucky girl.

LOL!

 

You would love to have a boyfriend like me wouldn't you.

Yep! Oh, sorry, was that directed at Cherry...?

Capn_Jack said:

Can't say that theres anything wrong with people going to strip clubs. Is he being open with you about it?

 

Can't say its my thing, paying for some lass to feign interest in me for a couple of minutes, but for some its a evenings entertainment.

 

No, he's not mentioned it to me at all, and would probably just tell me he was going on a lads night out.

 

No, it's not my thing either. The girls are always going on about arranging a "chippendale"-style night out. No thanks.

 

Uch i feel sick and empty thinking about it.

personally id be fine with it all as long as he takes you along!!!

 

then you get to keep a watch of what goes on and i think it wud b loads a fun goin a strip club!!!

 

stood and watched the pole dancers at global and they were soooooo wicked!!

 

i cant wait to go to a strip club!!!

 

Oh! i had no idea you two were a couple!

 

Loud's lucky to have a trust-worthy bloke, and to be secure in herself enough to let her bloke watch strippers.

 

Creamy's lucky to have a secure girlfriend who trusts him.

 

Sounds bloody ideal. I hate u both!

This is what I do to my girlfriend -

 

This is what I do to strip dancers -