Cherry said:

Oh! i had no idea you two were a couple!

 

Loud's lucky to have a trust-worthy bloke, and to be secure in herself enough to let her bloke watch strippers.

 

Creamy's lucky to have a secure girlfriend who trusts him.

 

Sounds bloody ideal. I hate u both!

 

was soooo funny to hear ur 1st comment b4 u realised tho

CreamyC said:

This is what I do to my girlfriend -

 

This is what I do to strip dancers -

 

 

I feel better for you saying that

 

How does she feel about u shagging Mr Moo?

Cherry said:

CreamyC said:

This is what I do to my girlfriend -

 

This is what I do to strip dancers -

 

 

I feel better for you saying that

 

How does she feel about u shagging Mr Moo?

 

How does she feel ?

 

You having a laugh ?

 

Shes the one that makes me do it.

Cherry said:

CreamyC said:

This is what I do to my girlfriend -

 

This is what I do to strip dancers -

 

 

I feel better for you saying that

 

How does she feel about u shagging Mr Moo?

 

u'd be suprised how much money lml makes from the video sales on e-bay

CreamyC said:

Cherry said:

CreamyC said:

This is what I do to my girlfriend -

 

This is what I do to strip dancers -

 

 

I feel better for you saying that

 

How does she feel about u shagging Mr Moo?

 

How does she feel ?

 

You having a laugh ?

 

Shes the one that makes me do it.

 

You like it

I pimp Creamy, as nursing wages are shite!

i dont think id mind its a bit of a laugh isnt it, i mean just like the girls goin to see the chipendales or sumthin, it doesnt really mean anythin about your relationship does it as long as he doesnt do anythin else!

I used to be extremely insecure over my first and second girlfriends. I hated the idea of them going out with their friends without me and couldn't stand the thought of them going to see male strippers etc.. At one point I didn't even want one of them to go to an Anne Summers party. I was very young and obviously didn't trust them. As I got older I learnt through going to a couple of clubs myself that it was all just a bit of a joke and shouldn't be taken seriously at all, plus most of the girls are just like robots and there was nothing really about them that would attract you so much you would want to cheat on your girlfriend, plus they were propositioned so many times by businessmen that they quite frankly had had enough of most blokes and so I'm pretty sure even if you wanted more there is really no chance of that happening - plus its banned by the management. 

As i've got older i've stopped going to these clubs and also realised that they are pretty harmless and would never have a problem with my girlfriend going to one - and i know women take them even more as a joke / laugh than blokes do. Some blokes really read into them too much, to the point of actually believing one of the girls likes them, which is all just an act, but most of the blokes i've seen just have a few drinks and a laugh - most don't even buy a lap dance - they just watch everyone else. 

The novelty will wear off for your fella sooner or later and when he realises how much its costing etc... I wouldn't try and stop him though as he will just be more sneaky in the future and then you really wont trust him. Trouble is its sounds like he's already covering this trip up - but then i guess most wouldn't want to tell their girlfriends as it is precisely this reaction which puts them off.

good luck.

Some women will not mind their b/f going to a strip club, and some will.

 

There is no hard and fast rule to say which is right and which is wrong. It depends on the type of person she is, type of person her boyfriend is, and type of relationship they have.

 

Most relationships will have some rules or expectations (sometimes explicitely agreed, sometimes unspoken, sometimes just assumed) and if those are violated we will tend to feel hurt and displeased. It sounds like Cherry had an assumed expectation that he b/f will not actively seek other women's nudity and that's why she feels sad about it. It doesn't make her insecure, or a controlfreak.

 

Different people just have different views on what is acceptable in a relationship and what's not. To some girls, strip bar is a "sackable offence". To other girls, cheating isn't the end of the world. Most people are somewhere in between, so Cherry I'm sure you're not alone.

 

Cherry, you need to examine the boundaries within your relationship according to how you feel to find out how serious this is to you. Yes, Cosmo is full of stories of girls going to Chippendales blah blah, but if your own emotional makeup doesn't agree with it, it will only make you even more confused. I'd say, let go of other people's criteria because only you know what's right for you.

 

If you and your boyfriend love each other, there should be no reason why you can't talk to him about this, explain how it makes you feel, ask him about his reasons for wanting to go. Talking about it may remove the problem completely, and you may feel afterwards that there's no issue any longer.

 

As most of the people here said, it is probably just a "lads" laugh. But I would say, better to deal with it head on and fight with him if necessary, then to make yourself swallow something that can come back and haunt you both, just because you don't want to appear insecure. Insecurity has nothing to do with it - LOADS of people out there would not like it if their partner spent the night in company of persons of opposite sex who will deliberately, seductively and for money, take all their clothes off for them. Sorry but that's a fair definition of lapdancing. I have lost count of the times I've seen my friends distressed about stuff like that. And it doesn't have to mean that they're worried about cheating. Cheating is not the only thing you're not supposed to do in a relationship, for most people there are other smaller things which can be upsetting or hurtful.

 

As this is your b/f and I assume you love each other, then talking has to be the way out. You may end up resolving it or maybe you won't but at least you'll be honest about it. Don't just shut up and put up! Put value on your feelings, because to you they are real and valid and he deserves to hear about them.

Excellent reply Alexsandra 100% with you there

CreamyC said:

I'm always game for some strip shows, some I have been to are full of dirty past it old pervy gret haired business men.

creamy u sly dog you!! hadnt realised this was what u were in to!

Aleksandra said:

...then to make yourself swallow something that can come back and haunt you both

Er, sorry!

 

I fully agree with you Aleksandra - ultimately a relationship is about coming to compromises that suit you both. It's definitely not about proving who is right and who is wrong. But my Cherry's own admission, she is insecure (like lots of people) about being compared to other girls, so IMHO tackling this issue would be a pretty good start.

 

I'm wary of dwelling on the matter too much, you could end up winding yourself up Cherry, but I agree that if it really is an issue to you, you should have it out with your b/f.

It wouldnt bother me tbh.... if he was goin to cheat then he could do it in easier places then a strip club where there's no touching policies.... and if he did cheat then the feelings that he is supposed to have for u arent there and u can do better than him!! In which case he would have done u a favour (even tho it doesnt look like it at the time) At the end of the day, theyre just lookin at bare flesh, u get it on tv all the time these days, dou let him watch porn? same idea only on tv not in front of him... still no touchin but wanting to turn on kina thing isnt it?! Dont tell me uv never window shopped when uv seen someone with a sexy bod hehe So long as its kept to the eyes not hands (or whatever else) then there shouldnt be a problem with it!!

tidyturd said:

Excellent reply Alexsandra 100% with you there

 

Cheers Tidyturd, what does your nickname mean?

She poo's neatly!!!