miss_diddy said:

It is as I said before human nature to look at atractive things, however IMO if you are in a relationship, then keeping pictures or looking at pictures is wrong unless you are looking & getting aroused together!!

 

i disagree (unless such pictures are being used as a substitute for healthy sex). as a compliment to a 'normal' sex life, i really don't see a problem here.

 

that said, it's obviously impossible to make a statement which applies equally to all couples.

 

alasdair

My take on the subject: Nothing wrong with a bit of 'whoring' (that's what we in the city call going to these clubs). Nothing wrong with your girly doing this for a job (yes, I have been in that situation. No, not the one I am marrying!).

 

There is a problem if your lady doesn't like you going because of X. Are you being disrespectful about going (going against her wishes), or are you more upset that she doesn't trust you / feels insecure?

 

I see it as harmless fun for me. The ladies love it when I have been to places like this. They haven't been forced to do this! But I have grown out of it, I have to say. Not helpful to the discussion, but I thought I'd chip in.

miss_diddy said:

James said:

miss_diddy said:

yeh maria, agreed, porno is harmless & good fun!! But if say you found pics of other women or a woman!!

 

 

eh James whats confusing, im talking about your top shelf mag is ok, but say for instance, Tony came across a pic of my X all naked then thats wrong & nasty, is it not???

 

eek, sorry - when you said 'other' women I thought you meant porno women.

 

of COURSE photos of other ex-girlfriends/boyfriends/pets is highly out of order

FredTheBaddie said:

James said:

 

1. eh? i was saying i could totally understand how they feel ! I didnt say i didnt do it!

 

Right. So you think it's wrong but you still do it ?

 

 

2. from my experience, most women i've met dont keep turning their heads at every guy who walks past in a shopping centre. Most if not all of my male friends do make a point of looking at and sometimes even 'scoring' each girl that walks past who's at least a 7 out of 10. lol

 

That doesn't mean they're not thinking it, does it ? So you're saying it's OK as long as it's kept secret ? What a bag of [censored].

 

 

1. i didnt say it was 'wrong' of us - i think its a natural thing for blokes to do. I was merely saying that I can understand from the females point of view that its not nice to see your fella stare at another girl. Of course women look at other blokes but not to the degree that blokes do with women, and they dont read it into as much and start fantasising about it there and then on the spot. IMO

 

2. no i'm not saying its ok so long as its kept as a secret. as stated i dont think most women are as 'pervy' (if thats the word) as most blokes are.

 

can we stop this 'so you are saying' shite !