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There's another high-profile divorce story in the news at the moment. It's the same old tale: bint ends up with a massive proportion of her husband's fortune. I'm just wondering how people feel about this. To me, it seems morally questionable if it is possible for someone to 'profit' out of divorce. It must be quite daunting to be a high-earning bachelor looking for a sincere partner, as we still seem to live in a culture that rewards gold-digging. Generally it seems to be men who get the short straw in divorce. But it's not as though women are all dependent housewives in this day and age! In cases where maintenance is to be paid, the dependent party appears to have a right to continue to live in the manner to which they have become accustomed (as opposed to a 'reasonable' manner). How do we feel about this? Is it really an absolute right? I'm trying to look at both perspectives, but it does strike me as a dated and slightly sexist aspect of our law. I can also see how gutting it must be for fathers who have to cough up loads of dosh to support their kids, but barely get to see them grow up.

yay, just had a letter from my solicitor, my divorce will be finalised soon.... as of september the 15th im gonna be free!!!!!!! who wants to marry me???

Ok, my parents havnt been getting on the last couple of months. Not arguing at all, but just not speaking. Sitting in an atmosphere of silence. Im the only one living at home with my parents my brothers and sister have moved out and have their own lives with their loved ones. So im here at home puting a fake happy atmosphere in the house. Which, is not fair on myself. The thing i am happy about is there never is an arguemnt between them. Just the silence is what pisses me off. I get on with them both very well. My dad works away at the moment, but is home on weekends as its to expensive to travel home each night of the week back and forth [censored]. The reason they are not getting on these last couple of months is coz my dad had an affair with my mums BEST friend who used to live right opposite us a few years ago. My mum forgave him (altho i think that is just so show the woman he messed with, that she hasnt got one up on my mum) and they have been strong for years since it happened. The last couple of months, my mum has told me, its sumthing u CAN forgive, but cannot forget. Very true. But alot of other ppl [censored] it out between them, some dont, i guess. They have talked about this between them, and i have overheard conversations. My mum doesnt want to be with him anymore, plain and simple. Altho my dad has tried to make it [censored] but all she has done is thrown it back in his face. Then i feel sorry for my dad. But i know what he did was wrong and i wouldn't like it done to me, and im sure u lot wouldnt like it done to you either. Now, the thing is, i know more of what is going on here than my sister and 2 brothers do. I keep all private bisness to myself, but i feel they should know that they really are not getting on. But i dont want to tell them. Im dealing with it all. And am taking it very well i think. Altho i dont let it interfear with my job, in some cases. But sum other times it bothers me terribly. Simple reason is, i see my whole life flashing in front of me begining....on my own. They are obviously going to have to have a divorce, which is sumthing, i can handle, as i am a strong person when i wana be. But if the worst comes to worse, i have decided. That im finally guna move out, and not live with either of them. No matter how close i am to my loving parents, i couldnt stand the thought of either one of them thinking i am favouring one by movng in with one. I dont believe in that, i think it is selfish. But there comes a time, when living at home with yr parents comes to a halt, and u start to live a life of yr own, in the big bad world and experiencing life for yrself. Which is sumthing im a bit afraid of as i dont know the first thing about moving home. And it will be far away from where I am living now, as that is what i want, and it is what I have wanted for a long time anyway. Now my dad has been out of the house all day today. i thought he might be up the pub with his brother, catching up, as he always does at weekends. I text him today, asking him where he was. As sumthing triggered off my suspiscions about sumthing last night. Which left me on a downer for the night. But i was ok. His fone was off, and i just got a reply saying "im safe, im sumwhere, where i want to be, i love you. c u tomorrow. Dad xx". So i was just blunt and said "Ok, whatever, night". Now i dont know what to think to this, but all i feel at the moment, is SICK. Silly thoughts going round my head that he is with another woman. Its a thought that i really do not want circeling in my head at the moment. Because i love them so much. And i dont expect things like this to happen to MY parents. I thought they would always be happy! My mum is sitting downstairs watching tv. There is [censored] all i can say to her. Apart from, i duyno where he is. Coz i dont! If he has found sumone else, i guess its sumthing i gota deal with. All i want for my parents and other ppl in this world is to be happy. But im not sure how to take all this in. I feel like crying, but i wont. If things are not meant to be, then I guess, they rnt! But i know im guna be happy in the long run, because everyone does things for themselves to TO BE HAPPY. And thats how i like things to be. Has anyone been thru anything like this? Hoe did you deal with it? xXx