ur views on depression

[Mark 2]

Until you have suffered from depression, you cant begin to fully appreciate the effect it has on you and those around you. Its also one of those things that is hard to fully describe what it is doing to you inside. Its been a year now since i stopped taking seroxat for a bout of depression which hit me over the space of 6-12 months. I was ignorant to some extent beforehand but the whole experience has helped me find ways to cope with some other serious shit that has happened to me and my family over the last few months (and without the need for further medication). Today i focus on the here and now and those things that i know make me feel happy inside - this is my way of coping..

 

"Happiness is not the destination or the journey but the place you were in before"

[Clubbing Si]

QUOTE (ChrisT @ Feb 11 2004, 07:53 PM)

Depressed is a term that alot of people over use i think.

sometimes wen things dont go right people say they r depressed, and when they fix them and things improve majorly they r happy again. i think the term depression is used a lot and is a lot different to something like clinical depression. people just let things get to them even wen those things arent important, whereas clinical depression (ie sumthing is really fucking ure life up and there is no way out) is a major prob.

 

 

[Phil B]

right, time to clear things up i think......

 

i have been suffering from depression for some time, the latest started maybe june/july last year, at my worst i laid in bed all day, no motivation to do anything, getting maybe 2 hrs sleep a night.

 

i went to the doctors in septemeber and started on medication. while this helped give me some 'get up and go' i still had to deal with the issues i had with myself. sometimes when youre down you can keep dwelling on the same things never moving on. when luu spoke to me she did make me see i have to look for the future not at the past. whats been done has been done, nothing can change that but it shouldnt rule your life. since then i have fought harder to keep myself up, and that is the biggest thing, depression is something that you have to fight. i was at the hospital last week sorting out some cognitive therapy which the consulant said i should get alot of benefit from.

 

as for me always seemimg happy and smiley when im out, im hardly going to go out if im going to be all down and pissed off.

 

since luu had the miscarriage things have been very hard for us both and for people to say that shes not really suffered or suffering from depression....you dont know the half of it. on several occasions its nearly brought an end to our relationship and has been difficult to sort out.

 

hopefully now we are both on the up, im the best ive felt in a long time and ive learnt a hell of alot about myself over the last 6 months or so. im now living my life for me, doing what i want to do and if people dont like my choices or decisions its a bit of bad luck for them.

 

i guess alot of it is not having the belief in myself and thinking i wanted something which in fact is the last thing i want or need in my life. i feel good with the people i have around me and that are there for me if i need to chat etc.

 

anyone who does suffer from depression will know that their depression is unique to them in that no-one will quite feel the same as someone else. all id say is forget everyone else and concentrate on yourself, do what it takes to make yourself happy again...you are the most important person in your life!!!!

[Louise]

 

onwards and upwards babe

[jonm]

depression - i always thought it was a load of shit that people could just sort themselves by 'sortin ya head out'.

 

hmm... not true - you only know what its like once youve suffered from it yourself

 

It just makes me hit the weed and alcohol in a big way but that doesnt really help...

[Lisa]

QUOTE (Phil B @ Feb 15 2004, 11:35 AM)

you are the most important person in your life!!!!

thats well sweet xx

[russelldust]

QUOTE (Mr_Moo @ Feb 12 2004, 00:36)

QUOTE (DJ_Elemental @ Feb 11 2004, 10:33 PM) i despise anti-depressant medication - the way i see it, is that its tricking your mind into thinking that its better, but there is no way that a tablet can rid of your problems, so as the tablet fades off u need another, then u need a stronger dosage cause u get used to them, personally i think their worse than most illegal drugs. Mark, you should know full well that anti-d medication isnt designed, nor is it there to CURE depression.   Its designed to give you that get and up go feeling, just enough so you can put your life back on track. For eg. Go and make an appointment with a counsellor. It sounds so easy, but its not. A tiny little thing like making a phone call or goin to your doctors etc.... It isnt so easy when ur suffering despression.   I for one would never like to be the way i was, and feel strongly for people that are suffering.   Id also like to make the comment about what Lou and Kitty said.   Kitty says you musnt be blunt and musnt be harsh etc. Lou says you need to be blunt and need to be harsh, but not all the time.   When i was @ college, i feel now, that i milked my illness a bit and used it to my advantage when stuff wasnt done on time. I also thought college were to hard on me by not understanding, which i still think they were. But i still think i took the piss. I agree with the point that no one can really understand how u feel unless you've been there.     I mean this; if anyone needs someone to talk to about advice or opinions. You can talk to Moo. Mr Moo you give excellent advice.   well done.   I agree 100% with what you said- though it is horses for courses, the fact that you cut out the lows to enable you to get on with things is vital

[EmmaBlu]

hmmmm.....i have suffered with depression for a number of years now due to family problems but i have only recently been put on medication.

the tablets do give me the boost i need which is good, because i actually have motivation to do stuff now.

i just hope im not on them for the rest of my life, my mum has been on them for years mainly for the same reason i am on them.

i am just putting a positive attitude on things now

[2funkedup]

i know this wont be a popular opinion but i think depression is a serious illness. but i think people go around sayign there depressed when theres little or nothing wrong with them. it seems like a cop-out to me. ive known people who say there depressed when theres so many other factors to explain there state of mind.

[Clubbing Si]

thats true 4 people who r attention seekers etc... but sum people do have it - well do the docs say!

[Lisa]

QUOTE (2funkedup @ Feb 24 2004, 12:28)

i know this wont be a popular opinion but i think depression is a serious illness. but i think people go around sayign there depressed when theres little or nothing wrong with them. it seems like a cop-out to me. ive known people who say there depressed when theres so many other factors to explain there state of mind.

Yeh I do agree with you, that peeps tend to get the blues & do confuse this with depression, however depression comes in many shapes, forms & severities!!

[paula]

i had a bout off really bad depression which started after id had a serious illness, then lost my fiance. i ended up taking alot off drugs everyday, too the point i needed help stopping it. alot off it was caused with people telling me i had too get on with life, cos i have kids. i felt when i had my illness that my family were the patients, and i had too be the strong one. yeah i got thro the treatment and am still ok, but at my fiances funeral i cracked. felt i couldnt take anymore, and couldnt be strong for my kids anymore, so the drugs started. got myself into alot off trouble while i was taking them, but got all this behind me now.

my point being, dont listen too what ppl say, they dont know nothing unless they have been there.

it wasnt till i came off the drugs day in day out, and got help from all angles, that i realised i had depression, i sometimes feel abit bitter towards my own family now.

[kitty]

sorry to hear about ur fiance paula. hope u feeling better.

my family were the same,didnt 'believe' in depression till i took myself of to a remote place and disappeared for a bit,that made them realise i had almost done something silly.

i try not to feel funny bout it tho,my mum and dad are different generation and my dad was in marines so his views are very different.