what can she do??

[Clubbing Si]

lol

[Maria]

QUOTE (Clubbing_Si @ Feb 3 2004, 06:45 PM)

she needs to stand up 4 herself

Agreed !

 

I understand this situation very well !

 

Give her my number and I will advise her ! lol

 

Seriously, the only way this situaion can be resolved is that she stands up for herself. It depends what the other person is liek that she shares the accomodation with though. Iv seen others in situations like this and the only thing to do is speak up about it and start standing up for yourself. Although I knowsome people will not stand up for themselves because they don't want arguments etc which is fair enough, to a certain extent, because, there is only so much of a demanding attitude you can accept from another individual. The other person might be manipulative and won't give a shit what they do or what they tell you.

 

I guess it also depends on how they were brought up and this is why they have this demanding attitude.

 

It is a tricky one and I know this for a FACT ! I know people in the same situation Lisa !

 

But it all boils down to..

 

..the person who is getting the shite, needs to stand up for themselves if it gets too much for them !

 

No-one should be bossed around by anyone

[Clubbing Si]

spot on maria

[Lisa]

yes very true, but Like I say it's convincing my mate to be strong & stand up for herself!!

[Maria]

[Maria]

QUOTE (miss_diddy @ Feb 3 2004, 08:28 PM)

yes very true, but Like I say it's convincing my mate to be strong & stand up for herself!!

Yeh I know hon.

 

But I think the reason why she won't stand up for herself it because maybe the other person (can't remember if it is male / female she lives with ?) will always be manipulate her and turn things round on her making out they giot a valid point as to why this person can be so demanding !

 

I know that's what happens with the situation that I see with people I know !

 

[Lisa]

yes true, but it is wrong, I am sure if my mate went in to her & started laying the law down as to what she can & can not do in the houese THEY SHARE, she would not tollerate it, so why should my mate!! GGGGGRRRRRR

[Clubbing Si]

maybe u shud say summat 4 her then? as nice as u can anyway

[Maria]

I know what you mean ! :@:@:@

 

It's a being in a department called catch 22 ! :@:@:@:@

 

Pisses me of how people can be so self fookin centred. It REALLY angers me. Specialy when people boss people about and tell them who to do this or that when they don't deserve to be spoken / treated like that

 

Get her to move out

[Lisa]

now theres an option, but really why should she!! Why let some girl who thinks she rules the fookin roost make her move out!!! no im gonna sit her down & tell she really needs to stand up for herself & not let this girl treat her like this, it is unfair, i'll tell her she neednt be worried & just approach this girl in a pleasant mannor & let her know it is not on really!!

[CaptinRik]

What about getting your friend to write down all her 'issues' and give it to the other person and ask them to reply to them. Its harder then for the other person to turn things round in the heat of an argument.

 

Just a thought.

 

Rick.

[Lisa]

QUOTE (CaptinRik @ Feb 6 2004, 02:33 PM)

What about getting your friend to write down all her 'issues' and give it to the other person and ask them to reply to them. Its harder then for the other person to turn things round in the heat of an argument. Just a thought. Rick.

Hello Rick, How are you & your colourful outfits??

 

Thats a very good idea, I will tell her to this later, as she is going to speak to her house mate this weekend!!

[Maria]

QUOTE (CaptinRik @ Feb 6 2004, 02:33 PM)

What about getting your friend to write down all her 'issues' and give it to the other person and ask them to reply to them. Its harder then for the other person to turn things round in the heat of an argument. Just a thought. Rick.

RICK TO THE RESCUE !

 

[djiceman]

QUOTE (miss_diddy @ Feb 3 2004, 06:53 PM)

thats exactly what I have been saying, she needs to tell the other girl that it is her home to!!! It is unbelievable really, how one person can be so bossie(sp) & think they rule the roost!! If it was me I would say hey piss off I pay half the rent too you know!!

you go girl........