being clingy?

[Lisa]

think I know what you mean, basically peeps have different ideals on affection, what some may class as a huggle another class it as smothering!!!

[kitty]

hmmm, im not too tactile,im too scared they'll reject me

 

im more someone who likes to see my mates as often as poss and hear from them alot,i find most people tho think a tex just b4 a night out is sufficient,or a tex once a month is ok. kinda makes u feel unimportant,whereas i like to let my mates know they important to me.

 

i dunno? sometimes the way my friends are,it make me feel worthless(not on purpose)but i understand they have lots of mates(they live in london)

[Lisa]

well dont let them make you feel that way, I would rather have a mate who texed me everyday to one that only texs when they want something & boy there are a fair few like that out there!!!

 

Where do you live then??

[Mr_Happy]

QUOTE (kitty @ Feb 13 2004, 01:00 PM)

hmmm, im not too tactile,im too scared they'll reject me im more someone who likes to see my mates as often as poss and hear from them alot,i find most people tho think a tex just b4 a night out is sufficient,or a tex once a month is ok. kinda makes u feel unimportant,whereas i like to let my mates know they important to me. i dunno? sometimes the way my friends are,it make me feel worthless(not on purpose)but i understand they have lots of mates(they live in london)

totally agree with you.

[kitty]

QUOTE (miss_diddy @ Feb 13 2004, 01:15 PM)

well dont let them make you feel that way, I would rather have a mate who texed me everyday to one that only texs when they want something & boy there are a fair few like that out there!!! Where do you live then??

i live in deal miss diddy,its near dover.

 

its frustrating isnt it?

but ive learnt theres just diff personalitys and alot of people are selfish and do use people,i find alot of people on here arent like that so i think its a matter of caring,loyal,honest people finding each other and sticking together.

admittedly i find it hard making/meeting girly mates,i find alot are fake,whereas i like totally honest,genuine people,none of this 2 faced stuff,just honesty if ur upset etc.

mr.happy: if u feel how i feel i hope u realise theres nothing wrong with u.

when people are soft(like us) others can see it and use it too there advantage.

if people use u then THEIR not worth ur time...look for people like u....

as i said b4,its better to have a couple of close friends then 100 'mates'.

[Lisa]

QUOTE (kitty @ Feb 13 2004, 03:24 PM)

u then THEIR not worth ur time...look for people like u.... as i said b4,its better to have a couple of close friends then 100 'mates'.

That is so so true, the less peeps around the less grief I find!!! I used to hace lots of peeps I held as close mates, but over the years learned, that they are not always as trusting as myself, so I now have many peeps I know, but only one or two very close friends!!

[kitty]

its strange isnt it,that the people we sometimes hold onto are the people who arent worth it.

i find it frustrating however that some people who 'use' people

really dont care. ive confronted one mate and she made excuses

when really at the end of the day,she misses no one and truely loves no one(cept herself)she even admits she sayd her undying love to friends and boyfr's but admits after a few days she'd move on if it ended and not care.

thats what upsets me,i want her to appreciated her friends more but she wont,she jsut doesnt see things,even her mum thinks she selfish.however she acts like ur the most important person to her when ur with her,i call that fake.

its taken me 3 years to see this,and theres so many people like this,they act all caring and happy 24/7 yet inside there cold,nothing, its just a show...and it works,it drags u in and u find urself really liking that person.

funny how its the fakiest people that people always love.

 

cor ive gone on there!

 

apologises people.

[Lisa]

apology accepted!!! But you are right, some people only care about themselves, some are just out to stir, some I think have it built in & do not even realise or aware of what they are doing, which to me is the saddest, because they going thru life oblivious & no matter how many times you try to say, it goes straight over *SWOOSH!! *

[kitty]

QUOTE (miss_diddy @ Feb 13 2004, 04:02 PM)

apology accepted!!! But you are right, some people only care about themselves, some are just out to stir, some I think have it built in & do not even realise or aware of what they are doing, which to me is the saddest, because they going thru life oblivious & no matter how many times you try to say, it goes straight over *SWOOSH!! *

True!

 

ive realised its time to stop worrying bout these people and helping them

'find the light' so to speak.haha

time to concentrate on my life for once

 

nice talking tho

 

hopefully mr.happy will seee he's not alone

[Mr_Happy]

QUOTE (miss_diddy @ Feb 13 2004, 04:02 PM)

apology accepted!!! But you are right, some people only care about themselves, some are just out to stir, some I think have it built in & do not even realise or aware of what they are doing, which to me is the saddest, because they going thru life oblivious & no matter how many times you try to say, it goes straight over *SWOOSH!! *

they know theyre selfish. however some people find the best way to get on in life is to take what u need, and others believe its better to give what you would want to recieve

[Lisa]

this post has gone way off lmao!! Started of bout clingy peeps ended up with us chatting about peeps not being clingy so-to-speak!!

 

But yes good attitude, put yourself first!!!

[Mr_Happy]

QUOTE (kitty @ Feb 13 2004, 04:09 PM)

hopefully mr.happy will seee he's not alone

i've got some fantastic mates that have been there for me w/o me having to even prompt.

 

that to me is a sign of a true mate, someone that gives unconditionally.

 

i like to think i'm the same back

 

call me a hippy, but i do believe in carma

[kitty]

QUOTE (Mr_Happy @ Feb 13 2004, 04:13 PM)

QUOTE (miss_diddy @ Feb 13 2004, 04:02 PM) apology accepted!!!   But you are right, some people only care about themselves, some are just out to stir, some I think have it built in & do not even realise or aware of what they are doing, which to me is the saddest, because they going thru life oblivious & no matter how many times you try to say, it goes straight over *SWOOSH!! * they know theyre selfish. however some people find the best way to get on in life is to take what u need, and others believe its better to give what you would want to recieve there are definatly people out there who dont know there this way,its just 'them' so to speak.. take murders who dont feel for the familys lose..ok,ok,thats a harsh example haha. i just mean some people dont have a concience,some people dont have empathy or even sympathy..quite sad really.   this is why u get people who'll say they love u,that ur the one,but they can walk out the door the next day and forget u and honestly not care.   anyways.... mr.happy im glad u have that unit of good frineds around u, and yes karma....its a wonderful thing

[Clubbing Si]

being clingy for me can be defined in 1 sentence -

(in a relationship way)

 

-- if the other person doesnt want to the rel'ship anymore and u cant change his / her mind, give up! --

 

if u keep persisting then i see that as clingy, as for fone calls lots each day etc... well thats just friendship / love isnt it

 

 

[Lisa]

QUOTE (Clubbing_Si @ Feb 13 2004, 04:57 PM)

being clingy for me can be defined in 1 sentence - (in a relationship way) -- if the other person doesnt want to the rel'ship anymore and u cant change his / her mind, give up! -- if u keep persisting then i see that as clingy, as for fone calls lots each day etc... well thats just friendship / love isnt it

dont agree there, friends can be very clingy too!!!