how can u tell if u can

[kitty]

trust someone?

 

im a very trusting person and tell people things that most people hold back.

im now thinking "how do i know their trustworthy?" or will they tell other people what im telling them.

how do u truely know?

also if they broke ur trust wouls u stay mates with them?

 

cheers.x

[Louise]

you dont trust them if you have doubts.......trust your own instincts

 

trust comes with time (and lots of it in my oppinion)

 

i dont even fully trust people iv knew for years, i think we all learn the hard way when it comes to trust.

 

but like i said before if your not 100% sure about them, dont think about telling them something you dont want repeating

 

[Louise]

oh & BTW....... i would stay mates with them....but on a completely different level

[kitty]

cheers lou.

after friendships that ive had for years i only trust one person fully.

however i am obviously still friends with others,i just cant help but be open,ive gotta learn to shut my mouth i think

its just ashame there are people out there who'll hurt u,esp ones ur close to and have known for so long. its hard to understand what they get out of it. id never hurt anyone(on purpose),its all a learning experiance tho!

[James]

The key thing here is that you can trust certain people to do certain things. I dont think I've met a person yet who I can entrust to do on my behalf.

 

I made the mistake until recently of trusting too many people - probably my worst attribute.

[Guest FredTheBaddie]

You trust your instincts. What else can you do ?

[Ginge]

I dont trust many people at all. I have alot of close friends but only a few trusted friends.There are 2 peeps who use this board that I trust. I've known them both for 3 years and they've NEVER done anything to make me doubt them.

 

If there is EVER any doubt, then there's probably a good reason behind it. As people have said, trust your own instincts and you cant go wrong.

[Mark 2]

Ive learned the hard way by trusting too many people. Now i have 4 friends that i can confide in 100% but they have earned that trust over a period of many years. It is down to instinct but my best friends have confided in me which instinctly has allowed me to confide in them.

[Lisa]

My best bit of advise would be to not fully trust, always be slightly cautious!!

 

You can know someone for years & still find out that they can not be trusted!! Best to keep a guard up, but that doesnt mean to say you have to hold everything back!! If that makes sense!!??

[Guest nursenancy]

trust is a massive word with a lot of meaning.ppl do not have to b ur friends for u to trust them.u can trust a perfect stranger, but on the whole trust is wat i percieve to be mostly with friends or within a relationship where u can say or do almost any thing that u will not b judged upon and trusted that the confidentiality will remain between u.

 

its sumtimes sad though that the ppl u think u may trust the most in life seem to end up shitting on u

 

 

funny that eh??

[Sparky]

I think a lot of it is instinctive. There are people who derive pleasure from hurting others. If you look back at occasions where you have trusted people and they have then fucked you over, there are often little pointers to their true character which one glosses over or is simply blind to at the time.

 

The company a person keeps is also often indicative of their true character. Over the years its important to shed people who just aren't worth being your friend, I find it quite therapeutic to go through my phone deleting numbers.

 

Once you've honed your instincts its then a matter of someone earning your full trust and this can only be done by their actions over a period of time. I'm a strong believer in karma and it generally gives me a positive outlook on life which hopefully filters through to those around me.

 

Ultimately, its a balancing act between healthy scepticism and being open and being yourself.

[Bushy]

I have a couple of mates i trust, but i have known them for years. I cant say i trust anyone on this board 100% apart from Shaney_R, as he is my longest standing mate, and knows when i want something kept quiet.

 

I have a workmate who i can also say i trust as he has shown so much trust in me, in certain things, that i could tell him anything and it wouldn't go anywhere else. I dont know why, as i have known him for years, but we have only been mates for 3 years or so. I dont understand why, but i know i could tell him what i wanted and it would stay there, maybe it is because i know he has trust in me, for what he has shared with me, that has built my trust in him.

 

 

One thing for sure, Trust is something people have to earn in one way or another, and if you aint comfortable with that person you are putting trust into, why are you trusting them by telling them your deepest secrets etc.

[Maria]

QUOTE (nursenancy @ Feb 23 2004, 19:24)

trust is a massive word with a lot of meaning.ppl do not have to b ur friends for u to trust them.u can trust a perfect stranger, but on the whole trust is wat i percieve to be mostly with friends or within a relationship where u can say or do almost any thing that u will not b judged upon and trusted that the confidentiality will remain between u. its sumtimes sad though that the ppl u think u may trust the most in life seem to end up shitting on u funny that eh??

Hello my darling - nice to see you on here

 

I missss syou - will be coming home on the 5th March for Jessicas christening if you fancy a drinky poos

[Maria]

But yeah, I trust lots of people to easliy which is also my downfall at times.

 

I trust people because I expect them to trust me.

 

I do find that I am a very trusting person and that is one of my best assets within myself when it comes to friendships / relationships and confidentiality. I keep peoples business to myself when someone confides in me when they need a shoulder or a mate to talk to.

 

But, how can yu tell if you entirely trust someone ? I don't know. I guess it depends on how strong the bond is with you and the other person.

 

But then you trust people with some things and others with other things that differ from someone else you have trust with. If you understand what I mean.

 

I have alot of friends male and female, I don't completely 100% trust them all, yeh ok, maybe I do with some things. But I would say that about 4 of my mates I can trust 100%. I can tell them anything and everything and I know they wouldn't shit on me for love nor money !

 

I JUST KNOW.

 

Because the bond in regards to friendship I have with a select few of my mates, I never ever thought I would ever find.

 

There are some people you 'click' with and there are some people you don't 'click' with.

 

Edited February 24, 2004 by Maria

[Guest nursenancy]

yeah i know wat u mean bout the clicking thing. Training days, work collegues,uni, situations where u r amoungst large groups ur suppose to interact with. Though there just seems to b mayb 1 or 2 ppl that u generally click with and thoose ppl have been the ones who usually become friends with and share other interests outside of work.

 

 

Jessica....yeah id luv to wet the babys head with u and its about time u got ur skinny little arse down here again, aint done u for ages.

 

ive forgotten wat u taste like