Im a bit scared for a mate of mine.

[Bushy]

 

I rarely popst in these forums and only do when it is (in my eyes) entirely serious. This is serious beyond serious and probably the most serious post i have ever read on CTW.

 

Never mind the posts about 'should i dump my bf/gf?' etc. this is serious in a life threatening way, and deserves 100% attention. Posts like this make you look at yourself and thin k how lucky you really are.

 

I still cantt beleive how much guts ian has to come on a clubbing message board to say what he has. Once again hats off to you mate.

 

I feel sdo sorry for you maria as you are caught in the middle, but as i said before, you have to let the authoritites know, a womanm is about to sacrifice a life, for her habit, her habit of a drug that controls her even if she says she doesn't want to do it anymore. Sha cannot stop. Her poor child has to witness her mother fucked up on heroin, what seems to be every night, what sort of childhood is that?

 

 

I'm sorry maria but you have to call the Social Services, as this has played on my mind in work today and i diont even know who she is, but, i can say its up to you, but sense prevails and i am telling you it is the right thing to contact them.

 

What sort of life is that child that is already in this world going to have with a smackhead mother (because thats what she is)? Not much i can tell you.

 

This may seem hartsh in ordering you what to do, but i have had a few ales, and i speak my mind. I think it needed to be done, and the dutch courage helped.

 

 

Maria -

[snowqueen]

QUOTE (Bushy @ Mar 19 2004, 20:41)

If her own father wont help, who wil? Nobody expects you too. I'm sorry, BUT CALL THE SS NOW!!!! sort it out for the kids. In my eyes it makes sense!!!!!!! And You know it does.......................I'm sure of it.

I agree with bushy...do it NOW before its too late....i would even if it was my family...you have to do it for the child

[Guest saffysue]

Did you make any decisions Maria?

[Guest]

I havnt been home for a week and she has not phoned my house for any supplies whilst I been away, so, I can't say I have !

[Crill]

Not being funny Maria but by ignoring this problem when you have the chance to do something is as bad as ruining that childs life yourself!

 

How bad would you feel if in the future you find out something really bad has happened when you could have prevented it.

[Guest]

Crill, how BIZZARE you should bring this up. I have just spoken to her on the phone !

 

I think things are looking up for her as she has gotten rid of the bastard !

 

[IAHH]

well i had a couple of choice words until i read Ians reply. full respect to you Ian, for what you wrote there and the way you wrote it. further respect to putting your self out there. thats the best understanding I've had of the potential fall. Another thing i will have in my head to prevent me from being able to be in the state of mind and circumstance to try it.

 

i don't know any smackheads, but i've a mate who does. He hates it and the way it affects people, but he also understands that its easy to fall into and how you can't find a way to climb out. social circles seem to be the most dominant feature. i can understand that more clearly now that i'm at the stage of my clubbing career where i am wanting to withdraw significantly.

 

what i do know about folk in that position is described better in what Ian said, but here goes my original thoughts. You have 2 major pulls : the social circle & the highs. You have 2 major pushes - the comedowns and the disability to connect with life in any otherway.

 

This is true for any kind of drug i suppose, but if you haven't tried smack I would urge anyone here not to jump to any opions about anyone being self centred, you don't know the addication that they do. Whatever anyone thinks of people being 'weak' to accept the addiction, you have to concede the highs (against the everyday lows of their life) must be good enough to make it worthwhile. I wouldn't like to prejudge a smackhead because I understand how you can suddenly find yourself becoming one, but I couldn't trust one either.

 

#

 

Maria, assuming your friend is a 'victim' rather than a 'someone-who-likes-to-live-like-that-kinda-person'.... I think you're friend will always be at risk of continuing/ furthering her concerning lifestyle until she can lose her dependancy on whatever her ex brings her. Part of what he brings her is smack, so even if she doesn't want to see him, he's still worth seeing. she needs to beleive what he solves is problems in her head, -and she can get that inherself. then she can see about getting off the smack.

 

bare in mind she fell in love with who he was(/is). she might always feel drawn to what she sees in him. also bare in mind what ian mentioned, in that you have little chance of getting through (at least quickly). From what I know of you from this board, you're the kind of person who gives alot, but you have been stung alot as well. Be careful for yourself whenever you are helping anyone.

 

p.s. just like to point out i have no genuine experience about anything to do with smack addiction, but i do understand some of the pain of anyone involved & the way its decievingly easy to fall back into it.

[Guest]

An interestng read, there. Thanks

 

All is sorted now though. (Thank god).

 

I was up there this evening for a few hours. She has completely ended the horrible abusive relationship she had with him. Suffice to say, when I was there tonight, he came to her house and proceeded and attemp to kick the front door and the windows in. He then went, and returned within the next 10 minutes repeating his childish behaviour. Threatning to chop her up and stick her in a wheel chair.

 

Needless to say I called police right away and reported him (she has called them a few times within the last 2 days because of his anticks) for being a 1st class nob'ed when there is a 1 year old child in the household (and he is aware of that).

 

Police came just as the tit dissapeared Gave a statement, nothing they could do only to hide somewhere at the top of the street and keep a 'look out' for the dick head's return.

 

He didn't return, but pestered her with phone calls. I listened in to what he had to say, and the guy sounds like a right fucked up DOPE who has no clue about fuck all. He is cleary one fucked up THICKO.

 

Anyway, she has totally ended it with him, it's getting through harrassment before the prick gives up bothering her.

 

After having a good chat with her tonight over some tea and smoke, I think the girl has come to her sences after all cards were laid out on the table and realising, that, her relationship with this abusive low life, will always be something non other than a viscous circle. Sometimes when you love someone so much, the feeling of love makes you keep hold of what you love. Hoping things will get better. But when that person you love doesn't treat you in a way you should be treated in a relationship, or loses all respect and closness for you, but can only be a 1st class tosser, you need to give them the boot and move on. Get rid of the 'bad eggs'. This, she has finally done

 

He aint worth it and I think she now realises this.

 

My god ! Everyone needs a friend like me !

 

Edited March 31, 2004 by Maria

[Guest saffysue]

Glad you managed to sort it hon, you're such a star!

[Guest]

QUOTE (saffysue @ Apr 3 2004, 15:12)

you're such a star!

I know I am.

 

Everyone should take note.

[Guest nursenancy]

he may b gone, but is she gonna b strong enough to keep him away?

 

eventhough hes gone is she still on the brown?

[SexyNic]

QUOTE (nursenancy @ Apr 5 2004, 17:13)

he may b gone, but is she gonna b strong enough to keep him away? eventhough hes gone is she still on the brown?

it might not be the end of it, especially with her being left on her own with a small child, she might end up taking him back

[Guest]

She would only smoke it, when he was around.

 

If she has gotten back with him, or does, (iv not been up there for a few days) then she is a very silly girl.

[IAHH]

nice one maria, keep up the good work

[SexyNic]

QUOTE (Maria @ Apr 5 2004, 19:09)

She would only smoke it, when he was around. If she has gotten back with him, or does, (iv not been up there for a few days) then she is a very silly girl.

that's her problem if she gets back with him, but what about the child? Kids can't look after themselves