Getting caught...

[Maria]

I have a friend who we (me and my swansea mates) met at SSDNA about 2-3 years ago (I think), who moved down to Swansea to be with us lot because we were all so much into clubbing like he was and he took a step and moved down.

 

He has lived down here for about a year and a half.

 

He's a great guy and a really good friend of mine who has helped me out loads with anything and everything, and like wise from me to him.

 

He is the kind of person who has asoft heart and will give you the world.

 

He is the kind of person who hardly ever says no, just so the other person is happy.

 

When I came home for christmas, he picked me up from England (he is a Globe Trotter), as he was coming home for xmas and took a de-tour to me so I didnt have to catch a 3 hour train journey home.

 

When I came back to England after spending a few days at home, he DROVE me back up to England, 3hours drive, just so that I didn't have to catch a train back.

 

He lent me £1000 to get my 1210s because I couodn't pay for them there and then when the decks I wanted, were on a sepcial offer on HTFR.com.

 

I can't fault the guy, he is a really good mate and more to the point, a very genuine person who will give you his last.

 

He met this girl not so long ago, and I remember him telling me happy he is that he got her and I remember how over the moon I was for him to see him happy and that he is enjoying life.

 

He helped her with a few problems she had, moved her into his house (and he had a house mate too, who was his best mate), takes her to and from work every morning, buys her anything and everything she wants.

 

Only for him to come home after going out Friday night, shacked up with his best mate.

 

What a massive SLUT !

 

I'd leather the bitch if I got my hands on her. He is one person who don't deserve to be treated like that !

 

It just amazes me how people can shit on the people who worship the ground they walk on, and does absolutly EVERYTHING for them.

 

And because of that, he is now thinking of leaving here and never coming back :'(

 

[Phil rr]

people can be total bastards.

 

all i can say is the "what goes around, comes around" theory.

 

hopefully something positive will happen for him. .

Edited April 4, 2004 by Phil rr

[nuthead53]

fairly wrong of his mate to do that.

The rule of thumb is, if your best mate is with someone, then she isnt a option anymore.

From what u said he doesnt dserve that atall

[Daredevil Tony]

You will always be better than a cheating bastard.

 

Its funny how someone can be 'perfect' or 'the one' and then go on to sleep with someone else.

So much for love and friendship there!

I hope he has washed his hands of the pair of them.

Edited April 4, 2004 by Tony

[Mr_Happy]

i do feel for your mate, but sadly nice guys finish last.

 

(as i seem to have learned from experence) most women seem to get baord of 'nice guys' who go out of their way to make someones day better. just not enuf danger or excitement or something

 

this is deffintaly the case around here ne ways, but i'm sure its not limited to essex

[Phil rr]

QUOTE (Mr_Happy @ Apr 5 2004, 00:41)

i do feel for your mate, but sadly nice guys finish last. (as i seem to have learned from experence) most women seem to get baord of 'nice guys' who go out of their way to make someones day better. just not enuf danger or excitement or something

one of my housemates @ university fancied Darth Vader.

 

nuff said

Edited April 4, 2004 by Phil rr

[Ginge]

QUOTE (Mr_Happy @ Apr 5 2004, 00:41)

nice guys finish last.

Tell me about it. Admittedly I dont want a g/f at the moment but about 78 years ago there was this girl at work who I thought was a god send, she was gorgeous, had a brilliant personallity, everything about her was incredible, then when I finally plucked up the courage to do anything about it she told me I'm more "like a brother" to her than a boyfriend, "I'm too nice".

 

Then she started seeing another guy from work who treated her like shit.

 

When I finally decide to commit again, maybe I should turn into a total tosser, treat women like door-mats, that seems to be what they want from a bloke these days.

[SexyNic]

QUOTE (Phil rr @ Apr 5 2004, 00:46)

QUOTE (Mr_Happy @ Apr 5 2004, 00:41) i do feel for your mate, but sadly nice guys finish last. (as i seem to have learned from experence) most women seem to get baord of 'nice guys' who go out of their way to make someones day better. just not enuf danger or excitement or something one of my housemates @ university fancied Darth Vader.   nuff said

[Scream]

firstly if i was him i would of weaved his best mates head into the floor, then just got rid of her. There's nothing like getting even with vilonce, call it crime of passion, LOL!!!!

 

Give her a day to get her things together and just get rid. Depending on the situation with the house, get rid of the "best mate" as well.

 

Best to cut all your loses at this point, so much easier said than done, but the more you prolong it the more the hatred builds back up. If i thought anyone was doing that to me, i know i wouldn't be my normal placid self. I guess everyone has there buttons that can be pressed and that would be mine. I know for sure by some people i've come across the nicer you are to them the more of a ride they take you on.

Edited April 5, 2004 by Scream

[Lizard]

Something very similar happened to me about 5 months ago...I still can't believe it happened and i'm still finding it incredibly difficult to keep happy, i'm sure i'll forget about it eventually but nothing is more painful than the most important person in your life seemingly going out of their way to hurt you as much as possible...needless to say I hope I never set eyes on either of them ever again.

[Lisa]

It is the worst thing in the world, especially if it a so called friend who is doing it, not only does it rip your heart out, but smashes your pride & completely crushes you. my sympathies to him & as Scream says, as hard as it is, get rid of them both from his life