The Girlfriend

[tidyboy69]

What do u do when your gf doesnt understand clubbing and drugs. I had a break from my gf and then started clubbing and doing drugs. We then got back together. But now i still want to go out and take drugs but she would never understand as she hates anything to do with drugs. How confusing.

Anyone got any advise.

[LibbyVanDyke]

You should respect her decision that she doesnt agree with drugs darling. Its an awkward situation you are in, but just explain to her that you enjoy going out and clubbing, and that you hope she understands, but most of all respect her decision to not agree with the drug-taking. u know what they say, DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERNT FOLKS!

[Wub Wub]

ummm....really can't help on this one mate!

 

My other half is the exact opposite. First met her at GCSSS, then hooked up at big Beach Boutique. Since then, have been clubbing in Liverpool, at GKGG, and this weekend we are doing Peach at Camden Palace followed by Tidy Trax @ SE1.

 

She takes drugs, same amount as myself, and loves clubbing and all things related.

 

However, if you're gf does really care about you, then she'll have to appreciate that people do change, and that you may be into different things now.

[Diablo]

If you really wanna be with her, sit down and talk about it, its the only way, if your then faced with a decision or an ultimatum - only you can make that choice, personally i know what i'd choose

[Wub Wub]

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Originally posted by Diablo:

If you really wanna be with her, sit down and talk about it, its the only way, if your then faced with a decision or an ultimatum - only you can make that choice, personally i know what i'd choose

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If a woman really cared about you, she wouldn't make you decide between her or the music. That's bullsh^t.

[LibbyVanDyke]

it shud never come to an ultimatum, just say how you love her and explain things..

[Wub Wub]

Aaahhhh.....but what if the relationship isn't advanced enough to start throwing the 'love' word around?

[LibbyVanDyke]

well say how much you care and respect her

[Wub Wub]

We're asusming the gf is an amicable, reasonable person in this instance, and not an anti-drug nazi?

 

(I have known people like this, who won't listen to ANYONE elses point of view on a certain issue)

[Dakers]

Trouble comes to moy situation which is kinda similiar. I've decided I want to start clubbing and getting back into the 'scene' again. I know that when my girlf who is thousands of miles away comes back, we'll only be able to see each other on the weekends, and her parents are still really strict and won't let her stay over (madness.. she's 22 for god's sake!).

 

I know that the relationship could get really strained when I'm torn between trying to go out and enjoy myself around the country, and trying to support this girlf of mine, who really needs lots of attention. It's going to be a tough call, and I'm too scared to make any decision yet.. I'll wimp out and see what happens when she gets back... maybe we'll agree a comprise.. who knows

[Wub Wub]

So, a gf who needs lots of attention, yet can't stay the night?

 

Sounds very f^cked IMO. You care about this girl a lot dakers?

[Dakers]

Course I care about her, which is why I'm sat here doing my nut while she's off galavanting round the world...

 

She needs lots of attention like I said.. used to get narky sometimes if I had to ignore her phone call 'cos I was at work or something, and she really sapped all my energy when she was around (and no, not in that sense! far from it!). Trouble is I'm not sure I can cope with such a relationship when she gets back in January. It was ok before when I was in London near her, so I could meet up with her when she needed attention, but not now I'm down in the country.. hmmm

 

And yes, I am sooo fooked in the head at the moment you wouldn't believe! I can't think one way or the other... so it's lucky I've currently got a big stack of alcohol to keep me going in the evenings.

[Wub Wub]

Might sound a bit harsh, but a hard graft relationship with little payoff?

 

GIVE HER THE FLICK! find something closer to home, that is allowed out past when the street lights come on and, forgive me if I'm out of line here, get yourself some much needed shagging!

 

[Claire DC]

I think girls are like flowers in the respect that there are some girls/flowers than need a lot of attention/watering (for flowers) and there are some that dont!! The girls that need a lot of attention generally give the attention back 10 fold!! It seems to me that this girl doesnt need a lot of attention or else she wouldnt have gone off around the world or wherever so u have to decide if u wana a girl like that or a girl that needs more attention!?!?!?!

 

Just a lil thought, ignore me if im rambling!!

[Wub Wub]

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Originally posted by Claire DC:

I think girls are like flowers in the respect that there are some girls/flowers than need a lot of attention/watering (for flowers) and there are some that dont!! The girls that need a lot of attention generally give the attention back 10 fold!! It seems to me that this girl doesnt need a lot of attention or else she wouldnt have gone off around the world or wherever so u have to decide if u wana a girl like that or a girl that needs more attention!?!?!?!

 

Just a lil thought, ignore me if im rambling!!

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Some are like flowers. Some are like weeds ie Look pretty, but ultimately detract from the overall state of the garden. Cut them off at the root.