Would it [censored]

[DuDu]

In a word - NO!

 

You both want different things & are not prepared to compramise.

 

Why should your g/f stay with you when your getting battered at the w'end & then she has to put up with you suffering part of the week. What can you really offer her? I would say all you can offer is the dregs you have left from your w'end.

 

Why should you stay with your g/f when she's not on the same level as you. Your unable to share the euphoria you feel when clubbing or the snuggle, chill come downs. What can she offer you? Nights at a theatre or resturant. Cosy night snuggling infront of the TV. Marriage & babies - Are you ready for this?

 

I can't help but feel you are both bound to be on edge waiting for the other one to snap.

 

Was I any help?

Probably not, but I tried.

Please feel free to tell me to shut up & keep my opinions to myself!

[pete_n]

Say it like you mean it mate

Quite agree in some respects, You alwys cling on for hope though don't ya!

[DuDu]

For sure.

God, I'm a right one to talk at the moment.

My relationship is a TOTAL [censored]-up!

 

Sorry if I was too harsh hun, I didn't mean it in a nasty way.

 

If you think it's worht hanging onto then I wish you both all the best x

[Blink]

Blink's advice to everyone, it is spelt "comprOmise"

 

and

 

Is she asking you to give up your clubbing and stay in with her? I was more into clubbing than my ex, and into a different scene (I liked her scene, but her not mine) So sometimes we would go out together, sometimes we would go to different venues, sometimes we would go separately, and sometimes we would stay in. If she is asking you to give it up for her, I would say probably not, there are certain parts of you that you cannot give up for anyone, they define you as a person (if anyone ever asks me to chose between them and my band, they are gone so quickly I would probably want to sample the "swoosh" sound of them flying out the door) But if you can find a [censored] around that you are both happy with, go for it.

 

Good luck, and remember the best bit of advice I ever gave myself was "If it is the right decision by your heart, then even if it all goes wrong, you still did it for the right reasons"

[alasdairm]

there really is only one answer to this question - it depends...

 

for some couples, this is probablythe end. for others, they find a way to make it [censored] and perhaps it even makes them stronger as they have found a way to respect and accomodate a fundamental difference. it depends.

 

hate to sound preachy but i think your time would be a lot better spent talking to your girlfriend about this than soliciting advice from a bunch of people here (don't get me wrong - there are lots of cool people with good advice here on a lot of subjects).

 

hope it works out for you

 

alasdair

[pete_n]

Cheers for all your advice. believe me this has been talked about with my g/f for the last few months - she is not oblivious to the situation!

 

I think we'll see how it goes over the next few months (I have alot of events coming up) If we make it through then so much the better