smacking & punishement for kids

[Guest Kether]

QUOTE (Treza @ May 19 2004, 12:11)

i shall try it thanx, it cant work worse than my ideas!!!!

Maybe you should try electric shock therapy and see if it works for your kids as well as it worked for Sylvia Plath?

[Treza]

QUOTE (Kether @ May 19 2004, 13:36)

QUOTE (Treza @ May 19 2004, 12:11) i shall try it thanx, it cant work worse than my ideas!!!! Maybe you should try electric shock therapy and see if it works for your kids as well as it worked for Sylvia Plath? ummmmmmm................   dunno if social services would like me much if me neighbours told em!!   Oh, n its only the one, so its kid not kids!

[snowqueen]

I dont need to smack my daughter, she knows when she has done wrong, so all i do is stop her from going out with her mates...

 

as for my twin brothers...they are a nightmare, they both have adhd and are uncontrollable....now one has been permanently excluded from school, the other for 15 days...since they have not been to school...they have been totally different towards my mum...they been good as gold.....really strange!!!

 

But smacking did not harm me...tho i used to wind my mum up alot but i am sure she agrees that smacking was not a bad form of discipline....

 

most kids know they cannot be smacked by law...so thats half the problem today and why kids are so uncontrolable.

[LiquidEyes]

QUOTE (snowqueen @ May 21 2004, 08:19)

as for my twin brothers...they are a nightmare, they both have adhd

What's that?

[Louise]

attention defisite hyperactivity disorder

[LiquidEyes]

QUOTE (Louise @ May 21 2004, 10:10)

attention defisite hyperactivity disorder

Is that another of those "disorders" they invent to justify odd behaviour?

[Lisa]

QUOTE (LiquidEyes @ May 21 2004, 10:16)

QUOTE (Louise @ May 21 2004, 10:10) attention defisite hyperactivity disorder Is that another of those "disorders" they invent to justify odd behaviour? Yup!!

[Guest]

QUOTE (ChrisT @ May 18 2004, 16:33)

fear of the bogey man

LMAO !

 

We used to do that to my oldest nephew.

 

We ahev a bedroom up in the attic, when he was around 2-3 years old, he always used to have the habbit of wanting to walk / run up and down the stairs. The only way we could stop him from doing this was to tell him there was 'THE MAN' up in the attic. My god, if you had seen how quick he came down from those stairs and to never go back up them, was the most funniest thing I have ever seen in my life He would never go upstairs on his own if he ever needed to come up and see me in my room when I was busy doing things, he would always have someone stand at the bottom of the stairs to watch him go up so 'The Man' wouldn't get him.

 

Overall, I really don't believe in frightening / smacking children.

 

When I see people swear / smack their kids, it makes me so angry and I just want to say something to the person doing it, wether I know them or not. BUt it's none of my business.

 

I hate it when I see fear in a childs eyes or when I see a child cry. Children should be happy and shouldn't be punished with beating when they have done something wrong. It's violence at the end of the day. Wether it be just a smack or anything more serious than that. Iv seen people really BELT their child / children and it really does make me furious.

 

Children will always do 'something' wrong, because they are growing up and are learning. Children need to experience doing certain things, even if they are wrong, this is exactly HOW they learn.

 

There are deffinatly other ways around diciplining a child and not resorting to a smack every time they do wrong. That's just teaching children to hit others and for them to feel that that is the right thing to do, when it clearly is NOT.

 

You shouldn't need to hit someone because they made a mistake.

[Guest]

QUOTE (Kether @ May 19 2004, 01:29)

If they're naughty, it's usually to get attention. Deny them attention when they're naughty and give them attention when they're well behaved. You have to stick to it though and it's hard when the kid is playing up.

AGREED.

[Treza]

well the attention thing works for me......

 

i have been ignorin his tantrums and praising him wen he is gd, think it will be the start of a well behaved child!!!!

 

kether

[Guest]

It's what children need.

 

To feel rewarded.

 

[Treza]

QUOTE (Maria @ May 24 2004, 13:07)

It's what children need. To feel rewarded.

i no, bless him his little face lights up n hes like " thank u mummy, i love u loads!" n all i have to say is "well done baby, mummy is soooooooo proud of u"

[Guest]

That's the way forward !

[Louise]

until you have 2 kids together cant ignore the arguements & fights then

[Treza]

thats wen it starts yes. glad ive only got the 1!