Can you see yourself having kids in the future?

[FredTheBaddie]

tidy_tart said:

in the end i grew stronger and relised that it wasnt my fault i couldnt help him it was his addiction!

 

and that bringing and child in to this world was a bad idea

so after 2yrs of hurt pain and anger i left him and moved on!!

 

Well, I'm glad that you got out of that [censored] situation and got your self-esteem back !

As they say, what don't kill you only makes you stronger.

[Mad_Clubber]

I would love kids. I lost a little boy at the age of 22 montths 2 years ago and it absolutley devestated me so another chance to be a Dad again would be cool when the time is right.

[Dawn]

AlexV said:

Would want to have have kids one day sure. There is one problem though, and I think this concerns all of us male clubbers here. I know a few mates that had real problems trying to have children, and I can safetly say that they didn't cain it as much as we seem to be doing nowadays. All us blokes could have real problems due to the hard clubbing lifestyles we lead. Good luck though lads.

 

Alex V

 

Apparently ALL male sperm counts have gone down by 50% this decade (immaterial of what they do)

 

 

Never say never

[djiceman]

got two kids already... ( 5 year old Dylan Joseph in liverpool and 2 year old Joshua Anthony in stoke) but sometime in the future would like more children with Carol, possibly adoption..... hmmm :scrathchin:

 

 

adoption...... (that reminds me to ask Somerset House in Ldon aout my REAL parents??? )

 

 

 

[Louise]

Mr_Happy said:

Daredevil_Tony said:

luu_luu said:

yup, both mine were accidents (even though i was using precautions) and so was the pregnancy just before christmas

 

No surprise there then!

 

ddtony

 

shame he dont want to explain himself, i have asked twice now!.......

 

i will explain, not that i need to explain anything to you!

 

i fell pregnant both times with my kids because the pill wasnt strong enough the first time, and then i had a bug (which stopped the pill from working the second) which was my own fault.........by the way i was married, which makes a big difference

 

my pregnancy with phil was a huge suprise, i was on tablets and laser treatment for a lump on my spine (the hospital hadnt told me they interfered with the pill) and thats how i fell pregnant, no fault of my own

[Kazmataz]

I never want kids... obviously from reading this thread i am in the minority, hence my parents/brothers/everyone else always saying condescendingly that "you'll change your mind one day/when you're older" blah blah blah...they obviously know the inside of my head better than me I don;t disagree with them, maybe when I am 30-odd, I will change my mind, but I doubt it, as most people already know that they will want kids one day.

 

I have more than one reason for not wanting kids, but probably the main reason is that I never bonded with my own mother, so I'm not sure i would be able to bond with my own child.

[Louise]

Kazmataz said:

I never want kids... obviously from reading this thread i am in the minority, hence my parents/brothers/everyone else always saying condescendingly that "you'll change your mind one day/when you're older" blah blah blah...they obviously know the inside of my head better than me I don;t disagree with them, maybe when I am 30-odd, I will change my mind, but I doubt it, as most people already know that they will want kids one day.

 

I have more than one reason for not wanting kids, but probably the main reason is that I never bonded with my own mother, so I'm not sure i would be able to bond with my own child.

 

which is fair enough, although i said i never wanted kids, now look at me

 

my fella doesnt want kids which can make things rather awkward, as iv always said i wanted another child when my 2 are older (and i wouldnt expect a partner to be around my children, treat them as there own and help bring them up and not let him have a biological son/daughter of there own)

[Guest]

luu_luu said:

Mr_Happy said:

Daredevil_Tony said:

luu_luu said:

yup, both mine were accidents (even though i was using precautions) and so was the pregnancy just before christmas

 

No surprise there then!

 

ddtony

 

shame he dont want to explain himself, i have asked twice now!.......

 

i will explain, not that i need to explain anything to you! i fell pregnant both times with my kids because the pill wasnt strong enough the first time, and then i had a bug (which stopped the pill from working the second) which was my own fault.........by the way i was married, which makes a big difference

 

my pregnancy with phil was a huge suprise, i was on tablets and laser treatment for a lump on my spine (the hospital hadnt told me they interfered with the pill) and thats how i fell pregnant, no fault of my own

 

 

you dont have to explain yourself to anyone, especially those that think they are being funny, when clearly they are not!!!!

[mistress_hoover]

miss_diddy said:

luu_luu said:

Mr_Happy said:

Daredevil_Tony said:

luu_luu said:

yup, both mine were accidents (even though i was using precautions) and so was the pregnancy just before christmas

 

No surprise there then!

 

ddtony

 

shame he dont want to explain himself, i have asked twice now!.......

 

i will explain, not that i need to explain anything to you! i fell pregnant both times with my kids because the pill wasnt strong enough the first time, and then i had a bug (which stopped the pill from working the second) which was my own fault.........by the way i was married, which makes a big difference

 

my pregnancy with phil was a huge suprise, i was on tablets and laser treatment for a lump on my spine (the hospital hadnt told me they interfered with the pill) and thats how i fell pregnant, no fault of my own

 

 

you dont have to explain yourself to anyone, especially those that think they are being funny, when clearly they are not!!!!

 

yeah i agree there

 

tony [censored] grow up - mistakes do happen when your on the pill and even if she wasnt why you its got [censored] all to do with you...

 

i unfortunatley had to have an abortion two years ago and it was the worst time of my life (i left it quite late aswell as i never realised..due to having a peirod) and i think thats what makes me so insecure today..but i had my boyfriend support me through it...but i think thats what was the main cause of us splitting up at the end of it..as its a hard thing to go through when your young.

 

But i know in my heart that it was the right thing to do..and i dont know why but i just had a 'gut' feeling telling me to do it..(and i always go on these feelings). But what im trying to say is that if anyone goes through this or has went thru it im always here to speak to about it...

 

I know when i do have kids in the future i will adore them and give them all the love i possibly can..and i cant wait

 

xxxx

[Claire DC]

Id love to have children in future when the time was right (im not gonna put an age on it as you never know when that time will be) but i dont know how much chance i have of being able to concieve now due to having a termination (that deep down i didnt really want) about a year and a half ago and experiencing complications during it. I've been advised to have fertitlity tests but i really dont think i could handle knowing the outcome if it is a bad one.

 

I have a nephew that i dote on and love to pieces and thats ok for me for the time being.

[Guest]

Claire DC said:

but i dont know how much chance i have of being able to concieve now due to having a termination (that deep down i didnt really want) about a year and a half ago and experiencing complications during it. I've been advised to have fertitlity tests but i really dont think i could handle knowing the outcome if it is a bad one.

 

 

Had this too, they told me I would probably never be able to concieve, but hey a few years on & 3 children later!!

[Claire DC]

miss_diddy said:

Claire DC said:

but i dont know how much chance i have of being able to concieve now due to having a termination (that deep down i didnt really want) about a year and a half ago and experiencing complications during it. I've been advised to have fertitlity tests but i really dont think i could handle knowing the outcome if it is a bad one.

 

 

Had this too, they told me I would probably never be able to concieve, but hey a few years on & 3 children later!!

 

Aww hun, im really glad for you and I hope this is the case for me too at some point.. it's a horrible feeling and thought to think that through the actions of having a termination (that i didnt even want to do but thats another event) it has made it possible that you may never ever concieve again. I don't honestly know if the not knowing (not doing the tests) makes it worse than if i did go for the tests and find out that they showed that i couldnt ever have my own baby, if that makes sense?!

[Guest]

yeh makes total sense, but hey chin up & be positive, stranger things have been know to happen & docs etc can be wrong!!

[Claire DC]

Very true, thanks hun!!

[Scream]

it's hard to picture some people being a parent. but it's strange some people really do change and hopefully for the better.

 

Do you sometimes look at said partner and think: "they would make a really great mum/dad?"